I`ve heard about Joseph Matthews in David DeAngelo`s Interviews with dating gurus for the first time and right by that time I was really impressed by the profound and deep knowledge that Joseph had. He isn`t focusing only on pickup lines and fake attraction which lasts only for a while – it`s when the woman realizes you aren`t what you are trying to be.
Joseph`s The Art of Approaching is one of the best place to start when you want to learn how to meet women. As he says, the crucial moment is approaching, because if you aren`t able to approach a woman, how you can create a connection with her, seduce her and make out with her? But for approaching women you need to have some knowledge, some skills and most of all you need to be balanced (means confident, know what you want and be commited to take actions).
The Art of Approaching Women
Now I`d like you to get familiar with the book The Art of Approaching closely, because I want you to know what it is about, so you can decide, if this book will help you to improve your skill in attracting, meeting and seducing women. Here we go:
The Art of Relationship Skills
Chapter dedicated to Joseph`s story about how he`s lived before he decided to make a change in his life and also introduction to what the approaching is in general
The Art of Belief
Most guys have a bad belief system, which stops them from taking actions and meeting spectacular women. This chapter is not only about attracting women, but if you start practising those principles (like avoiding to focus on negativity), you`ll see how rapidly your life gets better. In a matter of fact, this chapter by itself has worth of hundreds dollars!
The Art of Body Language
If you have been learning this stuff for a longer time, you should know how important body language is. If you haven`t, bet you left ball that body language is more important than words. You can have a killer pickup line, but if you stand near to a woman like Mr. Bean, you won`t get anywhere.
Learn how to hold your body to project confidence and stand out from the crowd and also learn how to interpret women`s signals to know whether she is interested in you or not. For example:
- touching her hair
- one or both hands on her hips
- increasing eye contact
- crossed legs
- opened mouth
- …and some secrets most men have NO idea about.
The Art of Confidence
Be genuinely confident and the rest of the approaching, attracting and seducing is easy. I was astonished how many brilliant tools for gaining your confidence Joseph offers. There is one sentence which is huge for me: Confidence is based on how you see the world around you.
Joseph has broken down 5 commont bad habbits you might have and learns how to avoid them. Do you see in one of these?
- Critiquing – avoiding rejection by rejecting yourself
- Criticising – everything is bad and pure evil
- Comparing – comparing yourself with other guys
- Alarming – looking for opportunities how to screw good things just to prove yourself you`re right about bad things happens to you
- Crippling – persuading yourself why you shouldn`t do this and that
One step is to recognize what you should fix and the second step is to work on it. In the book there is a step by step process for gaining confidence. Do you know where leads confidence? To ability to attract and meet more women.
The Art of Approaching
Learn what are openers and how are they structured, so you can by that formula create your own openers. Did you know there are various types of openers?
- Advice openers
- Direct openers
- Joke openers
- Insult openers
- Roleplay openers
- …..
What makes this chapter so special in my eyes is Joseph`s plan for your private bootcamp focused on successful approaching lots of women. It`s your road map to success with women and it gives you the minimum you need for approaching women:
- memorize 3 favorite openers, choose one you like the best
- find a place to practice, pickup your target
- make a approach with your chosen opener
- get the response and leave
See? No need to feel the pressure of “Geez, I gotta sleep with her!” No, just slow down and start from the beginning – learn the feeling of approaching girls, using openers and get comfortable with doing that.
The Art of Dating
For dating you need to learn how to build a strong rapport with your woman. You don`t know what the rapport is? Well, learn this chapter. Did you know there are different types of dating? Do you want to know how to make a date with a woman interesting?
It`s good to know what to do and maybe better is to know what you should NOT to do, because it gives you more freedom in using your creativity. Joseph calls it The Magic of Mistakes.
The Art of Flirting
Of course you can use different types of flirting. I didn`t know that. Learn the different types of flirting and how to flirt by using guidelines. Also you can read about what NOT to do when flirting, which is, as we now know, more important than what to do.
And as a cherry on the top of a cake there is a ultimate flirting secret. Are you curious what is it? I would be too. But because I`ve read the book, I know.
The Art of Storytelling
Storytelling is a brilliant way how to keep the conversation flowing. But only if you know how to tell the stories right. You can be sure there is also a structure for telling a good story!
I really enjoy the way how the book is created – you learn something new, approaching women for example, and then at the end of the chapter there is an excercise or tips how to get from point A to point B. It`s also here, a tip how to practice your story.
The Art of Being Social
Do you know the shy guys who are rather at home sitting behind their computer/in front of TV and being unhappy with their life? Are you one of them? Well, there is no way you can meet women this way! You need to be social.
People in general are attracted to people who have their life going. So, learn ways which make your life more enjoyable for you and interesting for other people. In other words, live active social life. Meet people wherever you are, make friends, make girl friends, meet women, approach them. It`s not that hard!
The Art of Seduction
You are confident, you approached a woman, you read her body language, you both had fun in conversation and telling each other interesting stories and now it`s the time to seduce her. But how?
Well, before you do, you should know a few things and have the right mindset.
Bonus: The Seduction of Christie
Are you interested how all the things together from this book work in a real life? Are you interested in seeing Joseph in field? You`re gonna like this last chapter, because it reveals how he`s seduced Christie, a model.
Enjoy!
Verdict:
Even if this wasn`t my first material in meeting women and even if I`d known most of the information in the book, there were still many informations thath I still find very useful. I`ve been using many techniques from this book, especially those for improving my inner game (commitment to take actions, gaining more confidence, motivation etc).
I`ve read the whole book during a weekend. I just couldn`t do anything else, the material is so addictive that I needed to read more and more. I really loved Joseph`s personal stories and the style in which the stories are spread across the book.
Don`t think that if you know many things in the area of meeting women, there is nothing more you can learn. This book is powered with really good stuff and I personally think Joseph could charge even $200 and it would be still bargain!